January / 2001
Kindred Spirits

Shattered glass lessons
by: Teresa Bell Kindred

One day last summer Grant and Russell were in the front yard playing baseball with their cousins when I heard a loud bang. I ran down the hall, opened the doors, and looked outside.

"It was an accident…" said Russell.

"He didn't aim to..." said Price.

"We're really sorry," said Thomas.

I followed their eyes to the pane of beveled glass in the center of the door. As the six of us watched there was a soft crackling sound, similar to the snap, crackle, pop of my cereal when I add milk. The round circle where the ball had impacted was now growing into a spider's web before our very eyes.

"Okay, which one of you did it?" I asked accusingly.
For a moment there was silence, then Grant stepped forward.

"I did," he said softly. "And I'm really sorry."

I took a deep breath. His bottom lip was quivering and he was trying hard not to cry. I told him I forgave him, warned them all not to play so close to the house, and made a mental note to buy metal doors the next time we remodeled.

The next morning I was on my way to the kitchen to make coffee when I spied Grant standing alone in the hallway, staring at the door and the shattered glass. He was unaware of my presence and as I watched him, a single tear slid down his cheek.

Two-time Pulitzer Prize winner Barbara Tuchman was once asked what she thought was most needed in the next century. "Probably personal responsibility," she replied, explaining that this means "taking responsibility for your behavior and your expenditures and your actions, and not forever supposing that society must forgive you because it's not your fault."

I suspect that Tuchman is right.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if everyone's New Year's resolution this year was to take responsibility for their actions instead of blaming it on someone or something else? Wouldn't it be wonderful if everyone knew that being genuinely sorry means being repentant in our hearts...even when no one is looking.

Teresa Bell Kindred is a wife, mom, and teacher. Her latest book is Mom:PHD: Leadership Skills for Moms. Visit her online at www.teresakindred.com.